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Stop The Presses! Our Gay Dating App Survey Results Are In!

March 17th, 2015|

Compare Your App Experiences With 4,000 Other Guys! Everybody has their own unique experiences with gay dating apps, but no one--until now--put some hard numbers against those experiences.  We got 4,000 gay men to fill out a 19-question online survey to answer a simple question:  How Do Gay Men Act On An App? The results [...]

Is Your Fetish A Serious Psychological Problem?

March 7th, 2015|

Interesting Question From A Reader: “I’ve come to realize I have a thing for dominant guys though I haven’t acted on it. I can’t help but think that guys into BDSM or dominance have serious psychological problems and do I really want to go there? I mean, are these men to be avoided at all costs or do normal, sane dominant guys exist?”   Our Answer: […]

Top 10 Sites Showing Whites Topping Blacks In Interracial porn.

January 19th, 2015|

Why Are Whites Always The Bottoms In Interracial Porn? Ever notice how hard it is to find interracial gay porn with a white top? It’s not that it’s IMPOSSIBLE, just difficult. Well, we don’t like people being difficult in bed and we certainly don’t like them to be difficult on the Internet so to make your life easier we’ve assembled a top 10 “where to find” videos of white tops and black bottoms in interracial porn. […]

An Open Letter To Gay Porn Studios About Interracial Videos

January 19th, 2015|

The Missing Piece… of Ass. By Colby Alexander I’m a multiracial American and I’m very proud of my heritage, black and white. I am extremely happy to say “my mom is this and my father is that.” And I’ll correct anyone who tries to force me to choose one over the other. Having said that, it does not stop others from placing me in a category that makes them more comfortable, and usually that category is “black.” I don’t really mind–it would be too exhausting to correct so many people. My mom always said, “Be wise when picking your battles.” And being part black and being categorized as African American is nothing new: Barack Obama, Shamar Moore, Boris Kodjoe, Tiger Woods, to name a few. I grew up in an interracial household so “dating outside your race” is completely normal to me, I don’t think twice about it. If you’re attractive to me then you’re attractive to me. End of story. […]

A Wildly Clever Way To Tell If You’re Hung (without using a ruler)

October 1st, 2014|

Forget The Ruler! Grab A Roll Of Toilet Paper!   A rep from a condom told me a wildly inventive way of gaging whether you need an extra large condom: Get yourself hard and try to slide a roll of toilet paper down your erection. If it goes all the way down to the base you're [...]

Latest Book In The “How to Have Gay Sex” Series Hits the Streets.

November 15th, 2013|

I'm  happy to announce the latest addition to my "how to have gay sex" series with the launch of How to Bottom like a Porn Star.  It's a How-To Gay Sex Guide That Shows You, Well, How to Bottom like a Porn Star.   One of the things that was so fascinating about writing this [...]

Gay Anal Sex And Why You Shouldn’t Use Drugs

May 19th, 2012|

QUESTION: I certainly appreciate what you said about gay anal sex and pain and cocaine a few columns back, butt for me it’s pot and the better the pot the bigger the dick I like up my ass. And this is from a top… Without the “lubrication” from  marijuana I become one of those bottoms who after 5-10 minutes says, “Stop, it hurts!”  (Not the kind of bottom I like to fuck.)  Not that it really hurts but I just don’t like it all that much sober.  Any comment on sex stoned?

 —  High as a dildo Dear High: How many times do I have to tell you people that masking pain with drugs is asking for trouble? You know that burning sensation you get when you’re penetrated by someone bigger than you’re used to?  It’s a signal that you’re ripping the lining of your anus.  You don’t feel it when you’re on drugs or alcohol because they distort or dull the senses.  You may be causing unnoticeable but very real internal bleeding.  And God help you if you’re getting fucked without a rubber in that kind of circumstance.  You might as well phone your doctor and ask him when you should start the meds. […]

Vanilla BDSM

May 14th, 2012|

QUESTION: My partner and I are trying to add a little spice to our serviceable but rather bland sex life.  Any suggestions?  Just keep in mind that we consider salt and pepper spices, so don’t be giving us hair-straightening Tabasco sauce suggestions! —  Vanilla aching for flavor Dear Vanilla: Listen, you’re talking to the right guy.  My idea of kinky is having sex with a guy whose name I remember.  I called up my friend Robert Davolt, author of Painfully Obvious and asked him what lightweights like you and I could do to spice things up without scaring the hell out of ourselves.  Listen to Robert—he is to BDSM what Michael Jackson is to NAMBLA—a recognized leader.  Here’s what he suggested: […]

How To Get Your Boyfriend To Bottom

April 17th, 2012|

QUESTION: As an underpaid psychoanalyst, I thought you might be able to help us. After a month’s breakup last year due to infidelity on my part over a need to get some butt, my lover and I decided to give it another go. I told him I’d agree to a monogamous relationship if he’d learn [...]

How To Gay Sex

April 7th, 2012|

QUESTION As an underpaid psychoanalyst, I thought you might be able to help us.  After a month’s breakup last year due to infidelity on my part over a need to get some butt, my lover and I decided to give it another go.  I told him I’d agree to a monogamous relationship if he’d learn to, er, uhm, take it like a man.  I expressed my need to be the top occasionally and that I was not willing to live out the rest of my life without fucking someone every now and again. I feel our acts of love should be a free exchange of roles (top some; bottom some).  He said he’d be willing to work with me on learning the pleasures of receiving.  I was elated because I really love this guy. So I moved back in and agreed to monogamy.  It has been almost a year and I still haven’t gotten any.  We talk about it some, to which he replies “Later,” and I occasionally ease my finger up his arse when we make love, but he is adamant about not going any farther.  He says he just doesn’t get the pleasure I do out of being penetrated.  Hmmm.  Frustration is setting in and my eye is wandering.  Frankly, I’m afraid I might end up cheating on him again.  Maybe I was a bit foolish thinking he would change.  And, maybe I’m a bit foolish even bringing this up as a point of contention in an otherwise perfect relationship.  For the sake of love, do I just give up my need to top? — Need Anal Penetration Dear Need Anal: Your desire for reciprocity is understandable; your tactics are not.  Basically, you’re engaging in sexual blackmail (“If you don’t give me what I want I’ll get it from someone who will”). Try this instead:  […]